This weeks’ “Mondays are for Marriage” post is all about something that is SO, so, SO important in any relationship, not just marriage. It is important in the relationship with your family, with your friends, and definitely in your marriage.
Without this piece of a marriage, you have worry. You have mistrust. There’s usually jealousy involved as well.
Honesty to me is a lot of things. Obviously, it means being honest in regards to EVERYTHING with your significant other. Not lying about ANYTHING is important in a marriage (that includes buying things for a higher price than you told your spouse, or anything similar to that), but it also means not lying by omission.
As humans, we tend to think that if we just don’t tell someone something, it’s not lying, but I can tell you from experience. This is one of the worse types of dishonesty. When you lie by omission, there’s something awful that happens to yourself. You tend to get suspicious of everything. You always have to worry about if your spouse is going to find out what you haven’t told them, and heaven forbid, they find out another way.
A lack of honesty can break up a marriage faster than anything. Without honesty, you have no trust, no respect, and really no back bone for your relationship. When it comes to your relationship and honesty, think about these test:
Could you trade cell phones for a week? Heck, a day!? Would you be worried about any calls or texts that you would be getting?
Could you trade debit or credit cards for a month? One of the most common areas of deceit in a marriage is finances. Would you be able to go over your statements at the end of the month with confidence?
Would you let your spouse go through your search history on the internet?
You really can’t have a solid relationship without it. So how about you? Could your relationship pass that test?
In case you missed last weeks post about respect, you can see that HERE.