Choosing your Maid of Honor (or Matron) can be a scary thing! You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but you want to make sure you have someone steadfast by your side throughout it all! It’s pretty important to find someone who’s trustworthy, and on top of things if you have a hard time staying on task. Wedding planning is stressful, and without an organized person who you love by your side, you may just lose your mind!

Maid of Honor

First off, What is a maid of honor!?!

Honor: to hold in high respect; to cherish; to esteem

Back in Roman times, the maid of honor and the bridesmaids were to dress similar as the bride and ward off any jealous men wanting to steal the bride, as well as any evil spirits. They helped the bride dress (like they do now) and assisted her throughout the day. The “maid of honor” in the United Kingdom used to be a term for a senior maid that was an aid to the queen. Pretty fitting for now considering the bride may act that way, at least for the day!

Tasks for the maid of honor in today’s world include leading the bridesmaids group, help shop for dresses, assist the bride in tasks that need to be taken care of well before the big day (like addressing envelops and maybe even using her expert palette for cake testing). It’s her job to plan the bachelorette party (with help of the other bridesmaids), make sure hair and makeup of the other bridesmaids stay on time, and make sure the girls have the correct bouquets!

When it comes to the wedding day, there’s even more that she needs to be in control of. Making sure the bride is calm, and stress-free by making sure everything is order with vendors is a HUGE one! She also will help the bride get dressed, make sure she EATS, hold the bouquet during the ceremony, and fluff her train and veil during photos. The list really goes on and on!

It’s so important to have that one person in your life who you trust, and know will be sure to take care of you on, what should be, the happiest day of your life!

Where To Look

Your bride of honor really can be ANYONE. It can be a sister, but definitely doesn’t have to be. It can be your best friend, who you grew up with for years, went to college together, and now live next door to each other. It might be your college roommate who turned into your BFF through the 4 years of finals and crazy late night studying.

Whoever you choose, make sure they are going to be someone that you are willing to spend A LOT of time with! I feel like sometimes this is why a bride will choose one of her closest friends, instead of a sibling. I know my sisters drive me crazy, and I don’t know if I could their opinions when they are so similar to me.

Regardless, choose who you love, and love who you choose. It’s a tough choice, and it makes a huge difference when it comes to planning and the actual day!

Did you choose a sibling, or a best friend for your maid of honor? Do you wish you would have chosen someone different?